There's something not quite right about that. It's intrusive. It doesn't put you on a level playing field with the rest of the world. I mean I've had makeup that lasted longer than my marriage. When everything started to unravel, one of my girlfriends remarked that my impending divorce was more like a casual break-up with lots of paper work rather than the demise of a significant union. She was right. But why does a bored man on the internet surfing for prospects get to know that right off the bat? I mean how many people are serial daters? Girlfriend, break-up, rebound relationship, break-up, girlfriend,you get the picture. But they check "single" and all those skeletons are neatly tucked away. The poor sap who lost his wife after three years of marriage to cancer is put in a category where he seems tragic at best, pathetic at worst.
So tonight I changed one of my profiles to say "single." I mean, technically that's what I am. And the only reason I can't check the "never married" box on my next marriage license, should that fateful day ever come... again, is because my ex-husband wouldn't let me put impotency as grounds for an anullment. Why should I be stigmatized by judgmental people who think I'm attractive but wonder why I'm divorced?
On the other hand, there are a lot of crazy women out there who have remarked, "At least you were married. Someone wanted to marry you." There's an inherent irony there that I'm loathe to point out because of its obvious nature. But some men who have the nerve to ask, "So how is it possible that you've never been married?" are appeased to learn that I was. I guess that means someone thought I was marriage material even if they eventually came to their senses. Anyway, personal details about my past relationships are just that- personal. Yes, I'm aware they're being chronicled on a public blog, however, it's an anonymous blog, remember?
